
The Bagpipe Who Didn’t Say No 
Alright, ye academics, intellectuals and expositors of literature. Here’s one to wrap your brain around. But if you want to ‘get’ it, you’ll have to go back, back, way back.
You’ll have to go back to a place a long time ago, a place where the sidewalk ended and the shoreside began, and turtles spoke in rhyme, and fell in love at first sight….You’ll have to go back, back, way back, to a time a long time ago, when you read poetry to learn new ideas rather than to affirm those you already believed in.
So if, for a few moments, you can afford to forget about your finals, your bills, the expectations your mom has of you, and the paper you have due later today, then you are eligible to take this journey.
Sit back, and read carefully as Shel Silverstein relates a true story of love, despair, and the real-life consequences of a misapplied imagination.
The Bagpipe Who Didn’t Say NoBy: Shel Silverstein
It was nine o'clock at midnight at a quarter after three
When a turtle met a bagpipe on the shoreside by the sea,
And the turtle said, "My dearie,
May I sit with you? I'm weary."
And the bagpipe didn't say no.
Said the turtle to the bagpipe, "I have walked this lonely shore,
I have talked to waves and pebbles--but I've never loved before.
Will you marry me today, dear?
Is it 'No' you're going to say dear?"
But the bagpipe didn't say no.
Said the turtle to his darling, "Please excuse me if I stare,
But you have the plaidest skin, dear,
And you have the strangest hair.
If I begged you pretty please, love,
Could I give you just one squeeze, love?"
And the bagpipe didn't say no.
Said the turtle to the bagpipe, "Ah, you love me. Then confess!
Let me whisper in your dainty ear and hold you to my chest."
And he cuddled her and teased her
And so lovingly he squeezed her.
And the bagpipe said, "Aaooga."
Said the turtle to the bagpipe, "Did you honk or bray or neigh?
For 'Aaooga' when your kissed is such a heartless thing to say.
Is it that I have offended?
Is it that our love is ended?"
And the bagpipe didn't say no.
Said the turtle to the bagpipe, "Shall i leave you, darling wife?
Shall i waddle off to Woedom? Shall i crawl out of your life?
Shall I move, depart and go, dear--
Oh, I beg you tell me 'No' dear!"
But the bagpipe didn't say no.
So the turtle crept off crying and he ne'er came back no more,
And he left the bagpipe lying on that smooth and sandy shore.
And some night when tide is low there,
Just walk up and say, "Hello, there,"
And politely ask the bagpipe if this story's really so.
I assure you, darling children, the bagpipe won't say "No."
Sorry. I never said there would be a happy ending. But perhaps we can all take a lesson from the story and make sure this never happens to us.
How often we misinterpret gesticulations, facial expressions, even silence. And how often our assumptions have more to do with our own preconceived notions than the conveyor’s intent.
Since bagpipes cannot speak, the turtle formulated answers to his questions based on his own whimsical emotions. But had he empathized with the bagpipe, he would have realized that the bagpipe was incapable of turtle-talk. He would not have personalized the bagpipe’s silence and he would not have felt the pain of heartbreak.
When we see beyond ourselves, when we empathize with our peers, it is easier to escape this pitfall.
Obviously, as humans, the simplest way to avoid this trap is through verbal communication. Rather than assume how a person feels, just ask.
You think that girl doesn’t share your feelings for a relationship? Ask her. You think your friend doesn’t need to talk about the death of his grandfather? Ask him.
There is a world inside each and every person, and none of us is so smart that we can possibly know what it going on in every heart.
Communicate. Listen. Empathize.
What? Why are you making that funny face? You didn’t like this? Fine. Whatever. I don’t like you either. Why don’t you just go finish that paper you’re about to hand in late?
-Rachel Weissman
Image Source:
http://www.icdc.com/~roadkill/images/silverstein/turtle.gif